SHOULD WE BE DATING OR CREATING FRIENDSHIPS?
Question of the day?
Is it possible that dating is not part of the plan? We as people have distorted the real plan and that is to cultivate frienships before the courting season. I am of the opinion that if we focus only on friendships, then we would eliminate a lot of the confusion that is going on in the dating world. When you are just friends and the focus is getting to know each other then you have a real opportunity to vet one another. Here are some of the major issues when we “DATE” as I see it.
1. Typically when people go on dates, most of the time intimacy takes place beforehand, distorting the vetting process.
2. You attempt to impress the individual as oppose to getting to know the individual.
3. Expectations are placed on the other that are typically outlined in a marriage relationship (i.e. Who’s paying for the dates(s)? Will you begin to pay the other persons bills? Time constraints, etc…)
4. Should the dating process not work, you are left with an emotional tear that often times are difficult to get over. Sometimes, the residue of the last failed relationship is brought into the next adventure.
Faison’s prescription…
* Take time to get to know yourself and find out who you are first.
* Take walks or do things that don’t require money.
* Don’t put expectations on one another and take the time to get to know the person.
“Free yourself from yourself and you will find your true self”
L.D. Faison
Family, do you agree or disagree?





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